Posts Tagged ‘personal’

Overly Complicated?

Wednesday, January 6th, 2010
It's Complicated
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Is it really as complicated as you think?

Sometimes we see things from the wrong perspective.  We think they are complex, complicated and wicked to learn, use to do.  We see them as something unattainable, something that will always be either just out of reach, or a million miles away.  Sometimes we stop and think to ourselves, “That will never happen…”, or “I could never do that…”  Is it really that complex, that complicated or that wicked?  Many times they are not, and we all need to learn that about ourselves, the things we do, the thing we would like to accomplish, use or do.

I think we all sometimes just need to step back and re-evaluate how we are peering into our path.  How we perceive the obstacles on that path, and where we ultimately want that path to take us (whether it involves a turn, a new path or more).  Sometimes, we have to brave where the is no visible path – and with the right support behind us – our group of people, whether online or offline, that are our backing, the pushers pushing us to excel – we can build a path.  Our own path.

Does it need to be complicated?

Sometimes, and being a web programmer by trade I see this alot (and have even been guilty of it myself), we over complicate things.  We make them harder than it should be.  It’s nothing with our perspective or outlook, but in our natural habits.  We add steps, layers and side trails – not out of the fear of failure or other things pertaining to our paths and such, but out of a necessity to be thorough to the point of complications.

Why?  We all have off moments, and sometimes that is all it is.  A moment of clouded clarity, or no clarity at all.  Other times it’s the best we know at the time, and we just haven’t honed out skills to work, create and be lean, mean machines at what we are doing.  Finally, sometimes we just do it to see if we can – which can work against us, or for us, depending on what the outcome should be and what the outcome ends up being.

How about we make things uncomplicated?

Let’s face our fears, let’s build that new path, let’s learn about who we are, what we can do, should do and want to do.  Then, let’s get out there and do it.  No more complications from us not pushing forward, okay.  How about we try to maintain clarity – yes sometimes we just need to slow down or stop to gain that clarity – and that’s okay.  Your competitors (if your applying to a business mentality) aren’t going to get that far ahead of you if you stop or slow down to renew the clarity.  Think about it, they won’t get any farther ahead than you staying in a cloudy state for a longer period of time, now will they.  And that clarity may give your business just the edge it needs.

In our personal lives – let’s slow down and find that clarity – to interact well, live well and take more moments to cherish those around us.  Those who are helping us on our paths deserve nothing but our best in return for what they do for us.  Let’s give them that, shall we?

Why not.

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Off The Beaten Path – A Personal Post

Wednesday, March 11th, 2009

Today was just a crazy day. In many ways it didn’t start normal – I was up late, so my wife let me sleep in a bit. I got up, tried to motivate and couldn’t. Phone company came out and dropped a new temporary line to my house. Wife went to work. My mom called, I forgot her birthday yesterday – which just does not happen.

About 30 minutes after my wife left for work, I was chatting with her sister and she pointed out that schools were on lock-down due to armed suspect. Hmmm…time to check the news. Imagine my horror when I find out the main search area was in an area right behind (seriously, right behind) my wife’s place of employment. Crap. I try calling my wife’s cell. No answer. Call her work number. No answer. Call cell again. No answer. Call work number again. No answer. Frantic, panic setting in. My phone rings. Whew it was my wife. She was okay, and didn’t even know anything was going on – so I tell her to stay in the building and keep a lookout.

My school advisor calls me. He still insists, that even though they put me in the wrong program, I have to take the classes all the same at the expense of another 2-3 yrs of school and over $15,000 extra cost. I don’t think so. I explain finals are due Sunday, he has until then to get me back in the program I signed up for or I will be quitting and going to a different college.

Call my wife again to check in on her. She is still ok. Call my mom, let her know what is going on, otherwise when she see’s it on her news she will freak. Or call and yell at me for not telling her about it.

Good. Check news….they found suspect, shot and killed him 4 blocks away from a friend, a really good friend who is a mechanic and is currently working on my vehicle. I place a call to him. No answer. He calls back, and I verify that they are all okay, and they are. Whew….good.

Call my wife again, let her know they found the guy. Mechanic calls, our van is done -yay!

On the way to pick up the van, I am driving the car we just got for our kids last week…..just driving it with my step-son in the passenger seat. I wanted to drive just to make sure the car was working okay – I only drove it once before we bought it. 1/2 block away from mechanic’s shop, on the bridge 4 blocks north of where the police shot the suspect a “gawker” slams into me. I was in the inside lane as was she, and she was “gawking” at the police scene, crossed the yellow line and took the mirror clean off the car.

Worst part? She didn’t slow down, let alone stop. So I chased her down, and ripped her a new one and we went from there.

Whew – that’s a day in and of itself. I am emotionally spent now, physically spent and mentally spent. I have tons of work to do, but will probably not do much tonight – unwind, be grateful and sleep.


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